Let’s get one thing straight. My experience
in Sudan is entirely shaped by the privilege that I’m a white woman. This
privilege has affected my time here so far both positively and negatively. It
is interesting because at times socially acceptable behavior for being white
and at the same time a woman are at tension with one another. Sometimes there isn’t
space for being a white woman.
The other night we heard there was
a football (soccer) game at the nearby stadium. We asked our Sudanese friend if
women could go and he said “Yes ma mushkila” (no problem). Ok great. So together
joined by two British guys who had arrived less than a week ago we set off to
the stadium. It is far too hot to play during
the day so it was a night game Mars (which is short for something I never quite
caught) against Khartoum 3. Inside the
stadium we stopped to take a picture and soon found a crowd of people also
wanting a photo…with us. By now I wasn’t really surprised people have starred and
even once stopped a friend at tea for a photo, but I hadn’t gone celebrity
status till this. While this could have
been an uncomfortable amount of attention in this instance I mostly found the
attention funny. The people were soooo happy we came to the game. We made it to
the stands where the two guys were whisked off among the crowd and a band
cheering and singing. They lifting the boys up on their shoulders and hoisted
them around for a while. The rest of the game we watched by the band and
cheered when Mars overtook K3 3-1. We even enjoyed a cup of tea during the
game. It didn't escape Rachel or I that we were the only women football fans in
the entire stadium. The only other women were the sita chai (tea ladies) serving
tea.
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Did I mention we sat with the band? |
Going to the game might be my
favorite experience so far. It also opened me up to an important lesson that
most restrictions on women are societal norms and not written laws. They are
more about social acceptance than what is permissible and what is forbidden. I
honestly can’t even do the subject of gender differences justice yet but am
going to give it a shot to show my first impressions. Who knows in two weeks or
more time I’ll look back on this post and just shake my head.
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Kawaja Sudanese Football Fans |
There is still a lot I’m learning
about Sudanese women. Sad truth is I've only probably talked to a couple dozen
or so Sudanese women so far so you can imagine how little my knowledge is about
the subject. I did talk CC: football game to one very educated Sudanese woman who spent some years abroad in Dubai. I wanted
her to know I wasn’t trying to say “Because there were no women there Sudanese
women must be oppressed” As a white woman who has been in the country for one
month and talked to a dozen Sudanese women I have no place to make that
statement.
Space is very gendered in Sudan. At
night when we would go to an outside restaurant on the side of the street to
have some ful (traditional Sudanese meal of refried beans and oil) we noticed
there were only men. Even when we went for a big meal at a friend’s family
house the women ate together in one room and the men ate in another (and the
khawajas ate in another). Women won’t
have tea on the side of the street, but they’ll have it on Nile Street. Generally,
more men than women are out and about in the markets. You won’t see groups of
women in the market shopping together but you’ll see groups at the indoor
shopping mall. At any public space you would find more men than women. This doesn’t
mean I never see women in the market or that women “aren’t allowed.” I have
even seen, on multiple occasions, a woman ride the bus by herself at night. I
have heard a story of a women volunteer who traveled to a place outside
Khartoum where she was only allowed to go to market on Sundays and had to be
accompanied by a man. I’m still trying to learn what is socially acceptable in
Khartoum. Something hard to decode for an outsider is women’s clothing decisions
based on where they are going and how they are getting there.
There is a law I’ve been told about
that women aren’t allowed to stand on public buses. If all the seats are taken
a man is supposed to offer his seat to stand or the woman must wait for the
next bus. I’ve seen both of these situations occur. I’ve also seen a group of
young women standing on a bus. Women also aren’t allowed to wear pants at
public universities.
In my conversation with my Sudanese
friend I tried to explain to her that when I told my friends or family back home about
the game they would immediately think “something must be wrong if there were no
women” “Why aren’t women allowed?” and that there is some injustice “Women must
be oppressed in Sudan”. And I can’t say with 100% confidence that they are
wrong, but from where I stand it’s not
my place to make that judgment. But
Ryan…you might start, women in “these types” of societies have been brainwashed
by their “traditional” culture and will never be over to overcome it alone. STOP.
Sudanese women are smart. Some of
the few who I’ve met are very educated and have traveled abroad across Africa
and to other countries; they know when society is screwing them over. My friend
hypothesized with me “Maybe Sudanese women don’t like football.” “Maybe they
don’t go because they don’t want to be looked at,” she gestured and I knew she
couldn’t find the right words in English. Women shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable
in public space. Yes I agree with you, women in
Sudan, the
United States,
everywhere shouldn’t feel fear in public spaces just because they are women.
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No. Just, no. |
Generally, women know when they are
being oppressed. Women know when they are being treated as second class
citizens. Unfortunately there isn’t much
hard data on this topic for the case of Sudan, but there is no doubt in places
were civil rights are suffering women are bearing a huge weight of that suffering.
Being an ally to women’s causes which also
fly as human
rights is important but I don’t know,
actually, talking to these women before you form some opinion on their lives/
culture/ society is better.